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Today we headed to a friend’s house for a Fall brunch party. There were oodles of toddlers in assorted adorable Halloween costumes, plus a few cuties who showed up rocking their normal clothes (Bug was one of the latter). There was also a mom there with a 3 year-old and twin girls, just 3 months old. At one point someone handed one of these sweet twins to me, and I ended up holding her the rest of the time. I couldn’t help it! I was about to return her to her mama when she fell asleep on my chest.

Oh my. Those newborn days go so quickly, and it’s so easy to forget just how tiny and how precious they are at that stage! Especially when a certain toddler is rampaging around the house shouting “no!” or whining to be picked up or put down or whatever it is she wants now. Yes, they grow up and it happens fast, but for one brief moment they are tiny, helpless, and adorably squishy. I’m really looking forward to experiencing that one more time. 

In pregnancy news, I am 18 weeks with a definitely pregnant belly. The anatomy scan is on Monday and we can’t wait to find out whether Cricket is a boy or a girl! I am a little nervous about all the other stuff, too, and hoping we leave the appointment with only good news. I’ve been struggling with feeling really light-headed in the mornings, which my midwife attributes to low blood sugar. So now I’m under strict instructions to have a high protein snack at bedtime, a glass of juice before I get up in the morning, and to make sure I’m staying hydrated. The worst part is the snack at a time when I am not really hungry! But it does seem to help.

I leave you with a belly pic taken on Thursday and a picture of the world’s cutest Little Red Rudibg Hood! Oh, and in between I threw in a picture of Bug enjoying the Fall leaves. 😊


18 week belly!

18 week belly!

yay, leaves!

yay, leaves!



Thinking of you all today, wherever you are in your motherhood journey!

Especially thinking of those of you for whom today is a struggle. 💛

Hello friends, and Happy New Year!

It’s been a crazy year for our little family, full of big decisions and life-altering moments. Here are some photos that best describe our family’s ups and downs in 2013

my rings

Celebrating Three Years!

We celebrate our third wedding anniversary on January 2nd! Before we headed out to dinner I took a pregnancy test, hoping that we might have one more thing to celebrate… it was negative.

fading pregnancy tests

Fading Hopes

In February we get a beautiful second line on a pregnancy test! Within 48 hours it has faded to nothing and my period has begun. We finally got our miracle and it ended in a chemical pregnancy. I was devastated.

Moving day!

Moving day!

After a whirl-wind job interview followed by a GREAT job offer for my husband, we packed everything up and moved half a continent away!

This blog was born!

This blog was born!

As we approached the one year anniversary of trying to conceive, I started this blog as a way to express the many complicated emotions I was feeling. I found myself surrounded by a community of lovely women in various stages of trying to conceive, fertility struggles, and even early pregnancy. What a blessing!

Fertility Consultation [Picture Courtesy of Wikipedia]

Fertility Consultation [Picture Courtesy of Wikipedia]

When our new insurance finally kicked in, we made our way to a prestigious fertility clinic in the area. We were quickly overwhelmed by all the tests they would need to do and all of the information there was to take in. This was on a Friday morning.


Big Surprise!

The following Monday– literally three days after our fertility consultation– I received my new stash of internet cheapies (pregnancy tests) in the mail. I took one, even though it was still pretty darn early in my cycle, and SURPRISE! We were pregnant again! This time the line was much darker and continued to darken over the coming days.

Meet June Bug

Meet June Bug 🙂

A fe weeks later we saw our little one for the first time. All was well, and we got the feeling that this time was going to be different…

18 weeks in!

18 week bump shot, December 26th

… And so far it has been! 22 weeks left until our due date, and all is well with our little one. We have come a long way, and are looking forward to every new thing to come. We can’t wait for 2o14, which is sure to be our year of adventure!

From my little family to yours, Happy New Year!

My prayer is that you find peace and joy in the coming year, and that those of you still waiting will find your own miracle in 2014.

sweet potato image courtesy of The Bump (the

sweet potato image courtesy of The Bump (the

Baby is the Size of a Sweet Potato!

What’s happening with the baby? Baby is moving a TON and these movements are helping to develop her muscles.

Total weight gain? In the last two weeks I have gained a little more than a pound. My midwives said I do not need to kill myself to gain weight, which is such a relief!

Maternity clothes? I am wearing maternity clothes exclusively now. I can still fit into my “regular” tops, but none of them are long enough to cover my whole bump!

Sleep? I had a rough week sleeping in the guest bed at my parents’ house, but my sleep has improved significantly since we got home a couple of days ago. Sleeping mostly on my sides at night, and even when I sleep on my back I find that I tilt my body slightly to one side or the other.

Best moment this week? My husband felt the baby kick! During our last night visiting family baby was being very active. We were watching Mary Poppins and when the Chimney Sweep song came one the baby started dancing, too. I was telling my husband about this later and he put his hand where baby had been kicking and suddenly his eyes got wide as he felt a “flick” from inside me!

Miss anything? I have been missing alcohol, but mainly because of the time of year that it is. I wish I could sip some champagne tonight, but I guess sparkling cider will have to suffice!

Movement? Baby has been moving a LOT, but mostly I can’t feel it from the outside yet. Still, it is amazing to feel the movement and know that it is our baby doing that!

Food cravings? I am definitely starting to crave more well-rounded meals. My body seems to know what it needs, so I am trying to just follow my cravings and let my body take care of June Bug’s needs.

Anything make you queasy or sick? If I wait too long to eat I will get queasy and stop feeling hungry. Once I eat a little something it goes away and I am able to eat normally again.

Gender? We find out in just 15 days! We had a talk over the holiday and decided that we WILL find out the gender AND tell people, but we are going to keep the baby’s name to ourselves until the birth.

Symptoms? Aching lower back (especially after hours on a plane), feeling baby’s movements. I had one thing happen that scared me: upon our flight’s arrival back home I went to the bathroom only to find that my underwear was wet! I called the midwives yesterday and after asking several questions and ascertaining that it had only happened once and was not a consistent thing they said it was most likely just a little leaking urine or discharge.

Wedding/Engagement Rings on or off? On.

Looking forward to?  New Year’s Day! We will officially be in the calendar year of the birth of our child! Also, our 4th wedding anniversary is on the 2nd (yay!), which also happens to be just 5 months from our due date.

I’m blaming pregnancy hormones for making me cry at the end of Elf.



What’s happening with the baby? Baby now has her own uniquely identifying fingerprints. She is forming vocal cords this week and her intestines have moved out of the umbilical cord and into her abdomen. She can now use her facial muscles to make faces and to suck her thumb. Baby is about 3.5 inches long now!

Total weight gain? After spending nearly a week in Tennessee with my husband’s family I have been eating much, much better. I have gained a pound and hope to gain a couple of more in the next week or two.

Maternity clothes? The transition is in process! I picked up a pair of maternity jeans from the Goodwill over Thanksgiving weekend and depending on how my “bump” is day-to-day, they sometimes fit, depending mostly on how bloated I am. My regular jeans do NOT fit, though, and after traveling with a belly band I can safely say I prefer to hang out in my pajama bottoms or yoga pants!

Sleep? I get tired out when I have to be up and doing a lot of just being unusually social (i.e. holiday gatherings), so I am more likely to take a break to just lie down for a bit. Otherwise, my energy is returning and I am no longer going to bed super early. The last few nights I have not been sleeping well. Hoping this doesn’t last too long.

Best moment this week? Seeing family for the first time since we announced our pregnancy! I felt like I was being initiated into the club of motherhood. For the first time the cousins and I actually had something to talk about. Also, on Black Friday we scored a great deal on the stroller we have been wanting. It arrived yesterday!

Miss anything? I LOVE Christmas, and I have always been the one leading the decorating and baking and other Christmas activities. I miss having the energy/motivation to do that! We got our tree up, but have yet to decorate it (2 days later)!

Movement? Nothing yet, and even though it is early I sometimes lie very still and close my eyes and try very hard to sense her movements inside of me.

Food cravings? Not really.

Anything make you queasy or sick? Meat and eggs. I only ate a couple of bites of turkey and ham at Thanksgiving, and could not eat a deviled egg even though usually I love them.

Gender? One of the cousins on my Mother-in-law’s side of the family is also pregnant, about 5.5 weeks further along than I. She also has a 4 year-old little girl. Apparently this little girl has been asked 5 times what the gender was of various unborn babies and has predicted the correct gender every time. I don’t believe in psychic gifts or anything, but it is fun to imagine, so I was pretty pleased when she said I am going to have a baby girl. We will see!

Symptoms? Our first night in Tennessee my husband found me sobbing because I missed our cat. So, still pretty emotional! My nipples have darkened over the past week, and my breasts have been having some shooting pains and just general soreness. I definitely have a belly now, though it is most noticeable to me and my husband. Can’t wait to officially “pop” and look pregnant and not just chubby.

Wedding/Engagement Rings on or off? On.

Looking forward to? Going home for Christmas in a few weeks! My mom and sisters are planning a baby shower for us while we are there! It is going to be early (at the end of my 17th week), but it is the only opportunity to have one with friends and family since it is the only time we will be able to travel home before the baby arrives.

Now for a plea: Ever since we conceived I have had terrible skin on my face. I constantly have red bumps on my cheeks. I have been using a pregnancy-safe cleanser twice a day and forgoing makeup almost entirely. Now that the holidays are approaching I am feeling more and more self-concious about my face. Does anyone have any suggestions??

Don’t you hate when you are gone a week and come back to find that the blog entry you thought you had scheduled to post never posted because it was just saved as a draft? Yeah. That.

I’m catching up on reading blogs and then I will be back with an update of my own! Hope my American friends had a wonderful Thanksgiving week!

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